Relationship and Sexuality Therapy
When we love ourselves enough, we stop chasing people who don’t. –Vienna Pharaon
You don’t need to be in a relationship to benefit from sex therapy.
Sexuality can be scary or intimidating for adults and children to talk about. We may bring our own baggage and hangups into important conversations with partners, children, parents, or friends. At times we might need help accessing more intimate parts of ourselves. The conversations may be uncomfortable or seem impossible. However, open and compassionate communication about sexuality issues can be deeply healing.
Sex therapy is a branch of talk therapy wherein the individual explores aspects regarding their sexuality. Sex can be considered a taboo topic in many cultures, so sex therapy aims to speak freely and comfortably about those concerns and explore underlying causes of dysfunction or relational concerns. Sex therapy is usually talk therapy and will never involve any kind of sexual touch or nudity in the session. If you need help learning about, understanding, or discussing your own, your partner’s, or your child’s sexuality, therapy may be a useful tool to help you understand yourself or your partner. Sex therapy or sexuality counseling can be useful for individuals as well as couples.
Trauma and childhood sexual abuse
Gender, relationship, and sexuality diversity
Communication and increasing intimacy
Normalize normal parts of the human experience.
Common topics addressed in sex therapy:
- Relationship conflicts
- Communication problems
- Health and/or medical issues, including past or current medical issues
- Processing past trauma
- Questions about specific sexual behaviors
- Sexual development concerns
- Family structure
- Sexual functioning past and present
- Mental health concerns affecting sexuality, including anxiety, depression, anger, shame, or guilt
My specialties include childhood sexual abuse; sexual trauma; kink and BDSM; polyamory, designer, or open relationships; LGBTQ relationships; gender exploration and gender expression; sexual orientation exploration; gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity
Create a new habit
It is rare to be given permission to talk openly about sex. In therapy we work together to find a way for you to comfortably talk about your sexuality with others. The new habit of open communication starts here.
An important note about sex therapy
Sexual contact will never occur in the therapeutic space, either between clients or between the client and the therapist. Most therapists’ ethical codes prohibit outside relationships with current or former clients. Sexual and romantic relationships with clients are expressly prohibited and any engagement in these relationships is an ethical violation on the part of the therapist. Your comfort level with the therapist is an integral part of the healing process, and it would be an ethical and potentially legal violation if a client ever felt coerced into a sexual relationship with a therapist.
“When it comes to sex, the most important six inches are the ones between the ears.”
– Dr. Ruth Westheimer
“There is no timestamp on trauma. There isn't a formula that you can insert yourself into to get from horror to healed. Be patient. Take up space. Let your journey be the balm.”
“A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams or your dignity.”
– Dinkar Kalotra